A response to one of my Facebook post disturbed me. I asked my FB family to check out my website, to buy my book, to book me for a talk, to comment on my blog. You see, I hadn't been on FB in awhile. I can no longer access it during the day, while on my day gig. And I've chosen not to have the Internet at home. It's a teen and technology disaster waiting to happen. Already my daughter spends way too much time texting her many friends, watching movies and hanging out on her MAC. In any event, I asked for support. After several weeks of not posting a status, I asked for what I wanted. Hence, someone decided that perhaps my motive for getting back on FB was to sell her something, as if somehow that would have been the wrong reason for logging on. Truth is, every single person on FB is there for something. The ones not promoting themselves, their services, their products are there pushing their thoughts and way of life.
Well, the next morning while showering I attempted to map out my FB response. I'd say this. No, I'd say that. By the time I'd stepped out the shower and dried off, I'd decided that no response would be the best response. You see, this person's comment said more about her than it did about me. And yet, interestingly, her words also gave me insight into me. Because her words ticked me off a bit, that told me that her words were a reflection of thoughts I apparently held. Her comment then was an out-picturing of my own doubts. I must, on some level, doubt that I am worthy of others spending their money on me, on my book. Later, in a conversation with a good sistafriend, I got even clearer.
When a Target commercial airs on TV, I doubt that anyone takes offense to their asking them to "come in, shop with us, buy a lamp, dress, and maybe some pots and pans with us." Jiffy Lube gets to ask us to stop by for an oil change without anyone, unless you had a bad experience with them, suggesting that JL has no right to ask for your Benjamins. But let someone who looks like you, your peer, your friend, your family ask you to spend your dollars with them and watch what you think, observe if you make that person arrogant or wrong for that. But why is that? It's because we've been sufficiently duped into believing that some people/groups deserve abundance and prosperity while other people/groups...ummm...not so much.
I am learning a valuable lesson here and that is, I haven't been asking for enough! And what does the Bible say, "You have not because you ask not!" Well, I'm just getting started. I deserve to have all the money I can spend and share and spare. And so do you!
Let no one shame you about your asking for what you want. Whether you're asking someone to spend some of their money on you, your products or services or simply asking them to spend more time with you. You have every right to ask. And sure, they have the right to say no.
Know this, you are worthy of all the money you can spend, share and spare! If you don't have it, maybe it's because you're not asking for it. Ask!
Well, the next morning while showering I attempted to map out my FB response. I'd say this. No, I'd say that. By the time I'd stepped out the shower and dried off, I'd decided that no response would be the best response. You see, this person's comment said more about her than it did about me. And yet, interestingly, her words also gave me insight into me. Because her words ticked me off a bit, that told me that her words were a reflection of thoughts I apparently held. Her comment then was an out-picturing of my own doubts. I must, on some level, doubt that I am worthy of others spending their money on me, on my book. Later, in a conversation with a good sistafriend, I got even clearer.
When a Target commercial airs on TV, I doubt that anyone takes offense to their asking them to "come in, shop with us, buy a lamp, dress, and maybe some pots and pans with us." Jiffy Lube gets to ask us to stop by for an oil change without anyone, unless you had a bad experience with them, suggesting that JL has no right to ask for your Benjamins. But let someone who looks like you, your peer, your friend, your family ask you to spend your dollars with them and watch what you think, observe if you make that person arrogant or wrong for that. But why is that? It's because we've been sufficiently duped into believing that some people/groups deserve abundance and prosperity while other people/groups...ummm...not so much.
I am learning a valuable lesson here and that is, I haven't been asking for enough! And what does the Bible say, "You have not because you ask not!" Well, I'm just getting started. I deserve to have all the money I can spend and share and spare. And so do you!
Let no one shame you about your asking for what you want. Whether you're asking someone to spend some of their money on you, your products or services or simply asking them to spend more time with you. You have every right to ask. And sure, they have the right to say no.
Know this, you are worthy of all the money you can spend, share and spare! If you don't have it, maybe it's because you're not asking for it. Ask!
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