The World Has Nothing For You

“Come over here,” I say to my daughter, “look at my blog.” As she peer over my right shoulder, reading it she quips, as if she really wants to understand, “Why do people blog?” Here’s why I blog. I blog for the same reason I gave birth to her, I need to give birth something that’s God put in me. I need to create, to express, to give something to the world. Chances are, this is the same reason others blog. We have got to express ourselves. It’s an imperative.

I have observed that when I went on a spending moratorium my urge to write and speak have spiked. You see, an addiction is a hunger for ecstasy, to feel alive…not just the desire to avoid pain. Our giving into that addictive urge means we feed this hunger in an unhealthy, destructive way. One day a sisterfriend whispered to me, “I need to curb my spending. I really don't need anything anyway.” I responded with an answer for us both, “Why don’t you see how you might get that same feeling in another way.” Later I took on the challenge for myself. Instead of futilely seeking a sense of aliveness, worthiness, and beauty from another pair of shoes I decided to step up my game. I decided to stop being so doggone afraid of rejection and judgment and put both feet in the game by better promoting Love Addicted, really putting myself out there as a speaker, coach, trainer and writer. Blogging is a renewed commitment to finding my authentic voice. I agree with Rev. Michael Beckwith when he said, “The world has nothing to for you, you have something for the world!”

We are creative beings. All of us. Not just some of us, all of us. You need not blog, spit poetry, belt out a song, tap dance or paint, still you’re creative. You create every time you dress in the morning, prepare a meal, decorate a room, write a letter, coach a client, give a talk, make a funky pair of earrings for me Angel. The creative impulse is as natural as breathing. All of life creates.

Our addiction to food, booze, weed, Percocet, clothes, sex, relationships loses the power to choose for us when we respond to our deepest desire, which is to give, to express our authenticity, to create. Each of us has been ordained to give something that only we can give. Our withholding these gifts show up as dis-ease, addiction, depression, cruelty, unhappiness.

What are you waiting for? Go ahead, give yourself and gifts away and watch how beautiful and alive you feel!