The Secret to Charming and Enchanting Men

There's a revolution afoot, and I'm on the front lines. Earlier today I had the pleasure of being a presenter for the Just BEE Wellness Blissful Living and Loving Virtual Conference. I am so delighted that Cassandra Herbert, Just BEE Wellness owner and founder, invited me to participate because talking about how women can improve our interactions and relationships with men just feels right to me. Besides, I think it's high time women take their power back. That is, stop thinking that all men are simply incorrigible rogues so it's nothing we can do to make our relationships sweeter and juicier.

See, I know a lot of women who say they desire a sweet, loving man in their life...but I gotta tell ya, too many of these women aren't looking in the right direction when they search for the answers to "Why am I alone?" This isn't a blame game. Nor am I saying all men have it together. What I am saying is this, it would behoove women to stop pointing the finger at men, saying they're just intimidated by us, that all men are jerks, players, cheaters, thugs. Meanwhile, there are women enjoying sweet and juicy relationships with honest, loving, dynamic, attentive men. Don't you want to know their secrets? Well, I did. Now I'm sharing them with you.

Okay, let me share some of what I know, things I wished women knew or would at least be willing to accept about men:

1. Men want to make women happy. I know, you don't believe me. Still, they do.
2. Men are charmed and enchanted by feminine women who make them feel like a man.
3. Men have needs too. They're different from ours. Women can't force their man to change, but they sure can INSPIRE him to change, grow, be better, more successful, more attentive, more loving! This one has been tried and tested. Trust me, a woman who knows how to make a man feel like a man can charm the pants, uh, I mean...inspire him to greatness. No kidding!
4. Women need to know what men need. Okay, listen up.

• Men need to be treated with RESPECT.
• Men need to be TOLD and SHOWN they are LOVED
• Men need to be TOLD and SHOWN they are APPRECIATED
• Men need to know they are ATTRACTIVE, SEXY and DESIRABLE
• Men need to KNOW you BELIEVE in them.
• Men need to feel SUPPORTED
• Men need women to be RECEPTIVE to them, i.e., a woman needs to be open and responsive to the ways her man expresses his caring for her.
• Men need to know a woman ACCEPTS him. He needs to see that acceptance in YOUR eyes when you look at him.

What kind of woman is willing to give men what they need? A smart woman. This woman knows if she gives him the wood, well uh, he'll give her the fire! What kind of woman CAN give a man what he needs? A confident, self-assured woman who knows how to submit to her man. Yeah, I said it! See, when a woman dances in her womanhood, she's a compelling thing of beauty. Such a woman likes men and savors their masculinity. Men love it when a woman savors his masculinity. The secret to charming and enchanting men is to not only respect their differences but to absolutely appreciate and delight in a man's masculine essence. Make him real glad he's a man!

Last, but certainly not least, it is time women get that we are supposed to bring men pleasure. Pause, so you can pick your bottom lip up off the floor. But yes. Why in the world would God have made women so beautiful and men so visual and hungry for us if we weren't created to bring them pleasure? When we get that knowing and living from this place gives up power, we'll stop fighting it. And start enjoying it!

Until the next time, Smooches!

DeBora M. Ricks

Author of Love Addicted: One Woman's Spiritual Journey Through Emotional Dependency. I'll be speaking at the 11th Annual Women's Expo, at Catonsville Community College

Visit my website at www.DeBoraRicks.com for details.